Friday, October 17, 2014
This Upset Mother Just Wrote A Letter To All Young Girls Posting Photos Online. And It's Brilliant
Kimberly Hall noticed her son's female friends were posting very provocative photos so she recently wrote an eye-opening letter to them... she writes:
I have some information that might interest you. Last night, as we sometimes do, our family sat around the dining-room table and looked through the summer's social media photos.
We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow - you sure took a bunch of selfies in your skimpy pj's this summer! Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.
I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.
I get it - you're in your room, so you're heading to bed, right? But then I can't help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout. What's up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.
So, here's the bit that I think is important for you to realize. If you are friends with a Hall boy on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, then you are friends with the whole Hall family.
Please know that we genuinely like staying connected with you this way. We enjoy seeing things through your unique and colorful lens. You are insightful, interesting, and often very, very funny - which is what makes your latest self-portrait so extremely unfortunate.
That post doesn't reflect who you are at all! We think you are lovely, and smart. But, we had to cringe and wonder what you were trying to do? Who are you trying to reach? What are you trying to say?
And now - big bummer - we have to block your posts. Because, the reason we have these (sometimes awkward) family conversations around the table is that we care about our sons, just as we know your parents care about you.
I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can't quickly un-see it? You don't want the world to see you primarily in this sexual way, do you?
Neither do we: we're all more than that.
And so, in our house, there are no second chances with pics like that, ladies. We have a zero tolerance policy. I know, so lame. But, if you want to stay friendly with our sons online, you'll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent. If you post a sexy selfie (we all know the kind), or an inappropriate YouTube video - even once - it's curtains.
I know that sounds so old-school, but we are hoping to raise men with a strong moral compass, and men of integrity don't linger over pictures of scantily clad high-school girls.
Every day I pray for the women my boys will love. I hope they will be drawn to real beauties, the kind of women who will leave them better people in the end. I also pray that my sons will be worthy of this kind of woman, that they will be patient, and act honorably, while they wait for her.
Girls, it's not too late. If you think you've made an on-line mistake (we all do), run to your accounts and take down the closed-door bedroom selfies that makes it too easy for friends to see you in only one dimension.
Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds clear, and their thoughts praiseworthy - just like you.
You are growing into a real beauty, inside and out.
Act like her, speak like her, post like her.
Wow! This is powerful. Do you think Kimberly's views are correct or do you think she's overbearing on her kids' friendships? I know not everyone will agree with her but I do - women are so much more valuable than just for their bodies - it's time someone spoke up and I'm glad Kimberly did. You can see more of her writings at her website: http://givenbreath.com/
If you agree with her words today, please share them with your friends.